EP 01- Why are you here? Discovering your identity.

A fundamental question to life. It’s the question we all ask, but rarely find the answer to. Here, we help to find that answer.

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Why are you here?

Why are you here? that’s the question of the day welcome to Finally Alive Radio I’m your host Gary Aris your very own Christian counselor and the question is Why are you here? have you ever asked that of yourself? you ever think of that? I think we live in a generation a time when everyone is asking how to how do I We’re so busy with that question. You know how do I make more money? how do I find a spouse? how do I be more attractive, right? But honestly. I think those questions are pointless there’s no reason to ask that question. And I’ll give an example. How many times have you seen that infomercial or maybe you Googled it and. You know. the that weight loss cure or the weight loss system that machine whatever the contraption is to help you lose that; ten, fifteen, twenty thirty pounds and you know of course you buy it and how many of us have actually used it when we received it? And if you did use it. How many of us actually stayed with the program or the system or use the contraption? OK maybe you did that too but did you stay with it? did you ever stop? Did you ever gain that weight back? Yeah, stats show that actually most of us do that we buy the contraptions and they end up you know being an extra kind of closet for us or our you know all those all those things that we buy they just end up in a corner in the closet somewhere so there’s a lot more examples just like that but think about it that is because we think of how do I? how do I lose the weight? how do I do these things? how about this example? Let’s create this guy let’s imagine it’s a forty-year-old male with a with a big belly OK? Here’s a scenario number one. So, forty-year-old male he looks in the mirror and he you know you know touches us tell me there and says you know I think I can I can lose some weight be nice OK scenario number two same guy male forty years old big belly goes to the doctor the doctor tells him oh hey you know Mr. male forty-year-old I think you have diabetes No in fact no you do have diabetes. And guess what if you keep treating your body this way we’re going to have to cut off some limbs eventually you will die OK two scenarios which one of those two do you think is going to push that or motivate that person to make a change obviously, scenario number two why. Do you see the why question so we asked this forty-year-old male in those two scenarios scenario number one hey why would you want to lose weight I think I like it you know I got I got a big belly I will look better it’s not an it’s not a good enough why? Scenario number two though what happened well I might die right to say that that the white question that’s are is I might die do you see so here’s my point number one I don’t think we’re asking enough why questions and number two I guess I make the statement if you why are powerful Your How becomes easy and that’s why I said the how to it’s a pointless question unless you know the why that’s the most important part now I gave you worldly examples. But the truth is we have to look at Eternal Spiritual examples here and let’s go there so why questions are going to be our foundation and if we have a foundation we can actually find our identity. Think of this generation what is one of the main issues is identity, everyone’s trying to find out their identity. Well let’s answer that question in fact how do you how do you find your identity? how do you how do you get to that? what do you have to do to learn your identity? Well we have a couple sources. We can identify with parents obviously, that’s a source family relative those are those are sources friends’ friendships another sources our culture, T.V., radio, movies but that’s where we seek identity. Well let me throw a curveball at you. What if you had bad parents? what if they weren’t up to par? what if you came from a broken home this is heartbreaking? I see this all day and in Session’s. What about the family? what if there were family members what if it was a broken family? Think about it that’s where you are that is your source of your identity. Now think of this person who is identifying with all of these. Perhaps bad behaviors or bad people I don’t know what do you think is going to happen? What do you think this person’s how questions are going to be? So, truly let’s stop step back a little bit further here. And look at our identity in a different way Sure yeah that’s parents sure that’s family but. What if we do like almost like a Google Maps thing you know how you go you go on Google Maps and you press you know a dot and that’s where you’re going and that’s where you are right well that’s the way we look at life what if we looked at it from God’s perspective? and what’s God’s perspective what God can actually zoom out so he can see the whole picture we want to look at it from God’s perspective so let me read to you Isaiah 40:24 that says Thus says the Lord your Redeemer who formed you the from the womb I am the Lord who made all things. Let me repeat that I am the Lord who made all things so again where we’re on a Google app here this is God, He can zoom out he can see forward he can see backwards he can see it all. And he is claiming I am the Lord who made all things so what if we rather than identifying just with our family just with our parents begin to identify truthfully because this is where the identity really comes from is God. Jeremiah 1:5 says Before I formed you in the womb I knew you. So, you want to talk about identity. Talk about identifying with this before I formed you in the womb I knew you. So, let me ask you my friend. Where is, your identity coming from? Knowing that this is what God thinks this is what God says this is what this is God speaking. He formed you in the womb and he knew you. What if you started to identify with God? More importantly maybe with Jesus. What if you looked at it from that perspective rather than looking at it from I came from a bad place I came from about a home I grew up poor. I guess you can go either way either way what it would if you grew up rich boy how many how many stories have we heard of spoiled kids and spoiled rotten you know children well spoiled adults too right. Identity, So, I want to suggest that you rather than identifying with family and friends in the culture of the day and speaking of the culture of the day how quickly do things change the fads right there’s a fad almost every day. And you have to keep up with that don’t you. Speaking of social media Oh my gosh there’s new ones I think what every couple week. It’s impossible to keep up so that said. What if you just identified with the source rather than trying to keep up with the fad. What is the source God Himself and again he claims I formed you in the womb he knew you? So, our question is Why are you here? have you asked that of yourself? Again, the why questions are going to be your foundation if you know your foundation if you have a strong foundation Well guess what everything on that whatever you build on that is probably to be a lot stronger isn’t it you’re listening to finally a live radio I’m your host Gary Aris. Your very own Christian counsellor and we’re asking the question why are you here? It’s all about your identity. Have you asked that of yourself, have you answered that question? Let me give you some more examples of how questions. I don’t know maybe you googled this how do I own a house? it’s a good question to Google right but again another pointless question White. House quite honestly is buying a house is actually probably a lot easier than creating a home. Big difference home takes work home takes time home though it doesn’t have a mortgage payment you will pay with your life. So, do you see when we when we break it down that way the how to question or how do I question doesn’t really matter how about how do how to attract a mate How about that one that’s a good one I think we we’ve all asked that some time in our lives right. But what if you attract a mate and what if it’s an unfulfilled loveless relationship I mean I don’t even know if we should call it a relationship but how many of us do that I’m guilty of this I’ve been there I’ve lived this I’ve seen this so it’s not the how do I attract perhaps the question is why. Who should I attract Do you see what we’ve just changed the question of just a little bit we get a better answer. Here’s a really good and I think everyone asks this one how do I find happiness? oh that’s like the million-dollar question isn’t how do I find happiness. What if you find happiness? Let me give an example. So, you bought a new car. It’s great let me ask you how long does it take for you to get sick of it. You’ve got your “how to answer” but so what who cares you’re sick of it in what two weeks three weeks a month three months how about those new shoes you’ve been saving up for? and you know I’ve done this I set up I’ve saved up for the for the for the shoes I buy the shoes and then I don’t care about it and of course when you get. That scuffle on oh my goodness right forget it I want to throw it away but you got to deal with it right how do I find happiness is not the question because truly we should be seeking joy. So again, it’s not about the “how questions” it’s about the why. Why’s again is our foundation. If we have a strong foundation, we can build on that strong foundation. We need to find our identity John 1:12 says yet to all those who did received him, to those who believe in his name, he gave them right to become children of god. I want you to start see your identity this way, you are a child of God, if you believe in Jesus, you are a child of God, done! that’s it, there is nothing, there is no other requirement I’m telling there’s nowhere in the Bible that says you must do these things to be saved no it’s just believe in you are saved no that’s it done what about my sins What about all the horrible things that I’ve done yeah all washed away. How’s that how does that work remember that word faith that keeps coming up in the Bible quite a bit has faith that’s it that’s the only requirement just has faith. Same way you have faith in salvation you should have the say a similar kind of faith with the statement here that you are a child of God now and this is where you ought you know this is where you will get your identity being a child of God Ephesians 1:5 says he predestined us for adoption to son ship through Jesus Christ in accordance with his pleasure and will so guess what you’ve been predestined and guess what you’ve been adopted you’re now a son you’re no family so guess what to you perhaps you’ve gone through if I may say Hell I’m back perhaps you’ve had a horrible experience with a family. Well guess what? you have a new family now it’s in God. If Ephesians 1:4 says for he chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world that we may be holy and unblemished in his sight in love so guess what this wasn’t about what you did in this life because you have been chosen before the foundation. So, back to your identity. Is it about how bad you’ve been? is it about what a horrible family you’ve had? not at all if you’ve been chosen you’ve been chosen in fact oh this is a good one you know people say oh I found God I found God no you did it was God last no you and I were lost God found us let’s put in the right order here. So, for he chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world that he may be holy in unblemished in his sight, in love. My friend your loved, your cared for. Maybe your family told you one cared for. Maybe your family said you are a use the word worthless that’s a common term I hear in Session’s. The Word of God says the complete opposite. You’re not worthless, you’re not hopeless. There’s actually a reason for you. And I’ve heard it I’ve heard it many times. You know my parents told me I was an accident guess what you’re not an accident some possible for you to be an accident well yeah maybe if we Google Maps it and we just hit the little button because that’s all we can see that is that little point right now from God’s perspective God sees more than that so not an accident it’s impossible for you to be an accident because God chose you in fact if you’re listening to this there must be a reason why you’re listening to this isn’t there. Perhaps you’re predestined to listen to this I don’t know something to think about. In Philippians 4;19 it says and my God will supply your every need according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus so guess what here’s your identity. You’re a son, you’re one of his, you know he will supply you with everything but yeah but I mean I don’t feel like he does and I feel like I’ve been kind of just tossed away to the side. While according to you perhaps but are, we looking at it at the Google Maps at the dot or are we looking at it from God’s perspective where he can see the entire map. Give him a chance in fact one should pray to him right know talk to him and say Lord you know I don’t know what you’re doing fact let’s play this together, Lord I don’t know what you’re doing I don’t know what your plan is. But this is where my faith has to kick in and I have to trust you because I can’t see the map but you can. Then though perhaps I’m broken in and I’m going through all sorts of hell on earth I’m still going to trust you. In 2 Corinthians 5:17 it says so then if anyone is in Christ that’s you he is a new creation. So, no matter what you’ve done listen to me carefully me repeat that again no matter what you’ve done I don’t care how bad it has been. If you are his, you are a new creation. How are you his? Jus claim it, that’s the only requirement. We all know John 3:16 it says for God so love the world that he gave his only son that whoever believes in him that’s the condition whoever believes in him guess what if you believe in Him That’s you that’s you are the new creation. You are the new child you are the one who is going getting the inheritance so, if so then if anyone is in Christ he is a new creation what is old has passed away look what is new has come. Let the old pass away. Look at all those things that you did you know what’s funny is God forgives us he lets go of the sin you know who doesn’t let go the sin as you usually go I don’t let go of my own sin I hold on to it. I’m going to ask you just like God has forgiven you forgive yourself. You’ve got to let go of it. You’ve got to let go of all that old stuff that you’ve done that you’ve seen. Because there is a new day. Tomorrow’s a new day. All you’ve got is right now. Galatians 4:7 says you are so you are no longer a slave but a son and if you’re a son then you’re also an heir through God. Go check that out now you have an inheritance because you’re an heir. It only gets better do you see. What happens to the heir of the kingdom? He receives all of it doesn’t e or she? That’s you that’s you. Will brother I don’t feel like you don’t feel like I get that you know I’m going through so much tough stuff so tough stuff that’s all it takes it takes tough stuff for you to fall apart and lose faith in God really that’s all it took. Really think about your own logic I say this in love. Look I struggle with this God where are you when this when these tough things are happening when the when the tough days are here what do I do. Yeah this is the part where. Your faith kicks in right here you know all those verses that talks about have faith have faith and faith the preacher is screaming have faith have faith this is it right here you have faith no matter how ugly it gets no matter how tough it gets you trust God you hold on with everything inside of you I mean if you’re holding on with your nails and you’re falling apart you’re holding on hold it with your nails that’s fine that’s faith. Hold on with everything that you have.

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