Describing the Melancholy Temperament
We’ve all heard of the “quiet type”, but why are they so quiet? Well, the Melancholy temperament are your thinkers. Do you remember Clyde Shelton from the movie Law Abiding Citizen? His colleague described, “Clyde is a brain. He’s a think tank-type guy… We kill people. He figured out how to do it without ever being in the same room. It was his gift, and he was the best.” Apologies for the gruesome quote, but this describe the Melancholy temperament so well (besides the killing part).
The Melancholy is the thinker and they’re the best at it.
They’re introverts, tend to be loners, and can be good leaders as long as they can move at their own pace. The melancholy temperament likes their home more than being out and about. They tend to be very private people and usually don’t share their deepest feelings, therefore the melancholy usually would rather do a task then say “I love you” to express their feelings to a loved one.
Jack Nicholson’s character, Melvin Udall, from the movie As Good As It Gets was a good example of an extreme Melancholy Compulsive temperament. He was a private person, very neat, did not like touching people or being touched, and would share his thoughts bluntly, even if it offended the room. For example, in the scene where Melvin and Carol, the waitress, were at a fancy restaurant, Melvin said, “I’ve got a really great compliment for you, and it’s true.” Carol responds, ” I’m so afraid you’re about to say something awful.”
Do you remember his profession? He was a writer and a very good one. The melancholy temperament are your artists. Have you ever gotten emotional over a song or a movie? Have you ever stared at a painting in awe? Chances are, you have been captivated by the melancholy temperament’s natural talent as they tend to be genius prone, perfectionists, and self motivated. No one has to tell them to write a great song, they just can.
Why are they so good at what they do? The melancholy temperament is very hard on itself. They set the goal so high that nobody could ever reach it, including the melancholy. Because of this, melancholy’s are most likely to be the most depressed out of all the temperaments. They are the most complicated of all temperaments and tend to be the saddest. Most people with addictions will test Melancholy.
Do you remember the movie Good Will Hunting? Matt Damon’s character, Will Hunting, and Sean, the Psychologist played by Robin Williams were both Melancholy temperament. Before the psychology sessions, Will had read all the books and knew the psychologists routine. Once Sean discovered Will’s game, he had to be creative and think of a new game plan. When he implemented the new plan, the healing process for Will finally began. Only the Melancholy temperament can understand and get through to the Melancholy temperament.
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